Get the Guy
Matthew Husseywhen it comes to dating and relationships is How long should I wait
until we have sex?
In the early stages of a relationship, men and women generally
take different roles when it comes to sex. Men are the pursuers and
women the pursued. It is women, then, who make the ultimate
decision about whether sex is going to happen.
Still, this doesn’t mean a woman’s sole power lies in her ability to
allow or deny a man sex. Thousands of magazine articles are
churned out every month telling you that the only way to get a guy to
continue to pursue you is to withhold sex for a specific number of
dates, or to not have sex until he has committed to a relationship, or
other rules that provide no help in keeping a guy in the long term.
Most of the women I know seem to hold to the wait-three-dates
rule, which is based on thinking something like this: “If I wait until
after our third date, he’ll see that I’m not as easy as those other
slutty girls he dates. Then he’ll realize that I’m someone he has to
get serious about before anything is going to happen.” This
possesses a certain kind of logic, but it’s another rule that misses the
point. I know plenty of guys who will wait until after three dates for
sex and still never commit.
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